And I Waited ...

So last night, I hit three places which were pretty busy. The first one, Cloud, there was event I had to go which brought alot women so it made prospecting easy but opening difficult at least pua opening difficult, but because it was an event everyone had an excuse to speak to each other.

I spotted a cute little women about a 8 so lets call her BIndia. I was heading to the bar to grab a drink I notice her. She was with a group a friends, but I froze and forgot how to open to a group or just anyone. After I got my drink, we made eye contact and I smiled and she smiled back. And I freaking wussed out. It would have been so simple just to say Hi and chat about the event and move the conversation to where I wanted.

What pisses me off the most is that saw her later that evening at Citron with a guy who was at Cloud and was not part of her group.

So what did I learn, it very simple just freaking go and talk. I missed a perfectly good oportunity. Ok, that's enough of kicking myself.

Today, I actually took the next step and went from a smile and to the Hi, four times and actually got a number close from a nice little women from Spain. Let's call her BAnita.

Anyway, I should be out tonight, but last night kicked my ass and I actually have to work every morning at 9am. I don't see how some of these guys are out three nights a week during the middle of the week which now I see might be my fatal flaw because if I am thinking this then there's probably 100's of other guys during the same thing then I am and leaving alot SHBs out for the picking. Alright that settles it, I pick up the pace next week.

Getting the Terminology down

After reading through one of the Mystery archives off of fastseduction.com, I have learned that some of my ratings are off. Not every girl is a HB.

Here's Mystery's rating:
UG (ugly): 0 to 7.5
(Used as pawns.)

B (babe): 8 to 8.9
(These are cute girls and worth chasing when you have been in a slump and need a pick me up.)

HB (hot babe): 9 to 10
(This is where you want to hunt.)

SHB (super hot babe):10 +
(This is reserved only for supermodels, playmates, penthouse pets, etc.)

Week End Report

Well, it's been a pretty fun week.

Approaches:
18

Rejections:
16

Pick-ups:
HBBagels at Starbucks
HBSwimmer at Mie-n-Yue

Dates:
Lunch with HBBlonde
Coffee with HBBlue
Drinks with HBMexico

Results:
Phone number from HBBagels
Phone number from HBSwimmer
Kiss from HBBlonde
Hug from HBBlue
Make-out session with HBMexico

Lessons Learned:
I have learned to embrace my fear and to continously blab about anything which leads to more diverse conversations and helps build rapport. I have actually to begun to do approaches which is my weak link, the whole embrace my fear has actually forced to think on my feet which hurts in some ways because of the stories and openers that I have taught myself never get out of my mouth. The most effective thing that I have learned in saying 'Hi' or 'Can I ask you a question?' opens a lot more doors than anything else that I have tried.

The most important lesson I learned this week is that rejection is not necessary the end of the world.

This Week's Injuries

1. Stub Big Toe (swollen)
- Tripped over the rowing machine at the gym, checking a new gym HB

2. Smashed pinkie
- Door shut on my pinkie while oggling like a dumba** at HB leaving the Cosi's

3. Shin Splints
- Running to get of the fat on my waist

4. Burned roof of mouth
- Choked on coffee while looking at a HB in Starbucks who smile back at me

The Eye Wars

On Monday, I was in Atlanta and today in DC, both days I practiced eye contact on everyone, men and women. What I noticed is that in Atlanta most people walk with their heads up looking forward and when eye contact is made, they either speak hello, good morning, etc ... or give you a nod. In DC, I noticed that most people walk with their heads down looking at the ground and when eye contact is made, the majority glance back down or away; those who did maintain eye contact said hello, good morning, etc ... or gave you a nod.

Another key observation was that in Atlanta, it seem automatic, like it was a part of everyday life to say hello, it was nothing personal. In DC, it seems like those who spoke or nodded took it personally like they were letting someone into their lives, in other words it was more heartfelt and genuine.

So why am I looking at people? Well, I'm trying to observe people behavior, body language, and interaction between strangers passing by each other. Also, it's an exercise to breakdown my AFC habits, being able to look someone in the eye without glance away or down.

No staring or glaring that's just plain weird, but direct eye to see person's reaction and to get out of my world (mind) when walking around.

Another observation was that holding someone's eye contact seems to invoke some secret password like it is ok to talk. While walking towards the check out line at CVS, the woman in front of me and I briefly had eye contact and we both said "hello" which lead to a conversation about altoids. While not a conversation that would lead to a grand romance, it was a fun conversation I would have missed out on, had I glanced away and it took away from the anxiousness of standing line waiting and an opportunity to practice my social skills.

Lessons Learned:
- Eye Contact (not staring or glaring) can open doors and lead to conversations.

- Always be prepared to escalate the conversation or lead the conversation with the opposite sex to where I want to go. (TOTALLY MISSED THIS ONE) I was too busy being nice to realize that speaking with the woman in front me at CVS was a perfect opportunity to lead the conversation to phone or email close.

Just Dance with Her

So I was chatting it up with a cute little chick (or I guest HBBLONDE as I slowly get the terminology) last night at 18th Street Lounge. How I got in this situation is that I met her at the bar downstair which was packed trying to get a drink. Lately, I have been just chatting non stop with anyone about anything. Kinda of a stream of conscious deal to clear up my mind and eventually get a target to lock on something I say and then to get her talking to give me some material to work with.

Anyway, I squeezed up to the bar to get a round of drinks for my friends as I get to the bar I get bump by HBBLONDE who is turning from the bar with drinks. I did an overexagerated crouch like she had just punch me in the stomach which she countered with while laughing "see what milk can do for ya" and with a wink I said while obliviously scanning her body, "Yes, it definitely done your body good" which got a great laugh from her and rolling eyes from her friend (you know the kind of rolling eyes that say that was complete cheese). So I place my order and grab my drinks and started towards my friends. HBROLLINGEYES was in the my path and look towards me and then back to her friend, HBBLONDE, probably to say something nasty at least that's what I thought in my head. As I passed I said to HBROLLINGEYES, "How you living?", which to my surprise got a smile from her.

So my friends (3 guys) and I head upstairs because downstairs was too pack. Upstairs was kinda of full but workable, enough space to walk around and get a drink comfortably. We shot the shit for a couple of minutes and then I had to hit the head. When I returned, HBROLLINGEYES and HBBLONDE were upstairs straddling the wall next to my friends. When I reached my friends, one buddies actually began talking to HBROLLINGEYES which lead to all of us talking, intros and all the ramdom small talk bs which last through a round of drinks. As all of this is going on the band comes on. It was a good jazz band and they were really jamming. So I was chatting with HBBLONDE and one of my buddies about nothing really but I was in mind sentence and HBBLONDE says "Wanna dance?" and I say "No, thanks". I don't know why. It just came out of my mouth and as it was coming out of my mouth time actually slowed down and my mind started to spinning. It was like No was coming out of my mouth and my mind was saying what the f*** are you doing. She then turns to my buddy and says "Wanna dance" and of course he says yeah.

So they are off dancing and I'm kick myself. HBROLLINGEYES heads out to the floor with some guy who was standing around leering at her. So I go roaming around for a few minutes saw an old friend chatted for a few minutes and then my buddies grab me for another round HBBLONDE and HBROLLINGEYES return and once again we all are chatting. I mentioned that we were thinking about heading next door to FIVE. HBBLONDE chimes in and says she use to work there and thinks she can get us in for free. So we all decide to go there and HBBLONDE works her magic and we are in.

HBBLONDE goes off and does her own thing and HBROLLINGEYES stays with my group, we grab drinks and head to the dance for. Now, one girl and four guys in kinda of strange but anyway there were so many girls dancing on the floor that it didn't matter. Two of my buddies begin to break off with other chicks and one of my buddy keeps groving with HBROLLINGEYES and me. Now, there's a pack of asian girls groving next to us, I manage break one off and we groving together then HBBLONDE hits the dance floor with us. After a song or two she leans in says "you are a much better dancer than your friend", I give her a smile and keep groving with her. Eventually, we (all of us) end up at the bar at this point I dying of thirst so I'm downing water and chatting it up with HBBLONDE. There's a lots of grabbing my arms and shoulders and joking around. HBROLLINGEYES is even enjoying herself.

We all head back out to the dance floor and doing our thing lots spinning and grinding with HBBLONDE. Unfortunatley, HBROLLINGEYES breaks in and says they gotta jet. HBBLONDE without my asking, ask for a pen and something to write on. I give her a pen and one of my business cards, she writes down her number and hands it back to me, says goodbye to my friends and gives me a long hug and a nice a little kiss on my lips, even HBROLLINGEYES gave me a little peck on the cheek.

Now, what did I learn?
I have no freaking idea. I did not open or use any openers. I was funny, playful, and talkative. I danced. But with all this said, I think it was at least for last night my attitude, playfulness, and confidence at the first moment that I ran into HBBBLONDE is what made it happen. I did stumble, but I didn't kick myself too much. I should have taken the opportunity to open on another HB at 18th Street when HBBLONDE was dancing with my buddy.

S'Up

At the beginning of this year, I stumble across a site name Life by Design, and it has been my downfall ever since. For the past four months, I have read countless articles, books, and ebooks about my AFC habits. Now, it's time to put to practice what I think I have learned and KILL THE AFC IN ME !!! I can pretty much gaurantee that this will be bizarre, funny, and at times pathetic. So welcome to my journey from AFC to a Man.