30 Days is Way Too Long

I have been kicking myself for the past two weeks because I have not posted anything. Mostly because I have not really been out.

Everyday, this week I forced myself to open two sets everyday. The only criteria were it had to be no one I had never seen before, at bare minimum I had to learn their name, and I could not open a set in the same venue/location that I had already open someone.

This was an interesting little test, because the unintended consequences where that
1) I was forced to actually go out to new places this week;
2) I realized that in most of my sarges I don't even know the girl's name until number close;
3) I get stuck in my head at the very beginning of the day and that outwardly focusing on these task actually were kind of a play period for me during the day;
4) My weekday daygame SUCKS (well more amusing that sucking);
5) There are a lot more HBs and SHBs out by themselves during the day;
6) and for some strange reason I found it easier to approach than normal (I think that this has more to with actually having a realistic goal instead of just going out to sarge).

Anyway, I got basics back down. And I'm feeling good for this holiday weekend.

PUA Blogger (Craigslist)

First of all this did not come from me, it was tweeted (is that a word) to me. Anyway, I do not know if it's real or fake. So I suggest if you respond, use an email address that you don't mind getting spammed.

FROM CRAIGLISTS:
Reply to:gigs-gtxg9-1200494610@craigslist.org [Errors when replying to ads?]
Date: 2009-06-01, 4:19PM PDT


Are you a pickup artist, familiar with seduction terminology?

Would you enjoy sharing your stories with the world?

Can you write well?

Come blog with us!

We are seeking PUAs (or those in training) to blog about their seduction adventures in the field.

Bloggers are expected to post about once per week (300-800 words) and will be paid $3-$5 per post (depending on experience level).

Due to CL guidelines, we cannot post the URL of the site here. Send an email and we will supply detailed info on what we are looking for.

We are NOT looking for "guys who are good at picking up girls" or "writers who can write about any topic". You must be a member of the seduction community familiar with the jargon. Don't try to fake it, as you will only waste your time and ours.


* it's NOT ok to contact this poster with services or other commercial interests
* Compensation: $3 - $5 per post



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Finishing my ToDo List

Posting is the last thing, I have to do today. I can't believe I even got to it.

It's been over 60 days since I last post and apologize sometimes you have to get things done. Like most people, the economy is killing me.

I luckier than most and nothing devastating has happen to me. I still have work, a place to stay, a car, friends, food, and health; just barely, but I'm doing better than most (knock on wood).

But thank goodness, I had enough sense to at least make some time and go out with boys, not as often, but you gotta stay social even it's for a couple of hours every other week.

Oh, I also want to apologize for not getting back to ya'll comments.

Anyway, go out and meet some people and have some fun. I will be updating regularly now.

Fate Fortune Seminar (Shameless Plug)

My friend, wing, and Stylelife Student of the Year is giving is his last seminar.

Here are the details, I have so far:
Date: March 27 - 29
Price: $300
Timeline: Fri. 7PM - 9PM, Sat. 10AM - 9PM (2 one-hour breaks for meals), Sun. Noon - 3PM
Location: Washington, DC (Logan Circle Area)

For details: Send an email to Digthecro@gmail.com

Ok, why should you attend?
1. Fate knows his stuff. He's supplied a bunch of stuff for Style's company and even taught at Style's last workshop.
2. At the end of the day, Fate is just a great guy to just to talk and hang out with.
3. His seminar covers a mixture of techniques: Style, Mystery, Mehow,RSD, and many more...
4. He starts with the basics hitting every step.
5. The stuff he teaches comes from experience, including teaching you how to get better, not just what to say.
6. At $300, it's a bargain especially in this economy.

Ok, I had an opportunity to attend his seminar last year and it was incredible. While it is structured, it is open enough for you to ask questions and get great feedback. There is no hurried push to get through the material.

If you are one of the people that needs to see something practice up close and in person without a lot pressure, you will probably not get a better opportunity than with Fate.

So, if you guys get a chance drop him a line and he will be able to give more information about his seminar.

He's been with his girlfriend for almost six months, which is why he says he's not doing any more workshops after this. So if you can make it, don't miss this great opportunity, because you won't get another one.

Sorry, I Disappeared

So I disappeared for awhile that is because sometimes life gets in the way. There's nothing wrong with that. I have to thank God and knock on wood that it's only financial and not health. It's been unreal. A $100 hit, a $459 hit, a $783 hit, and a $1124 hit... Ouch !!!

So to say the least I have been busy putting out fires and trying not to spend all my money.

It's not all bad news, I have ben to New Orleans, Atlanta, Boston, and have had a blast.

Ok, back to having fun.

The Video Guide to Successful Seduction

I just had to post this.

Women versus Men (Alpha Female)

Hot Alpha Female has a great post on dating and approaching. It's done in the minds of a man and a woman. It's worth a read. Women vs Men

50 Scientifically Proven Tips to Attract Female Interest

This comes from 50 Best Dating Websites.

1. Underarm attraction
2. Chemical communicate
3. Humans are difficult
4. Male pheromones help women
5. Try not to smell like a brother or father
6. First impressions are important
7. Great teeth
8. Attractiveness counts
9. Sport your colors
10. Red is good, too
11. Cleanliness is a universal attribute
12. Consider plastic surgery
13. No scars
14. Be fit
15. Be genetically different
16. Build a symmetrical face
17. Deepen that voice
18. Trust body language
19. Add a swagger
20. Learn how to dance
21. Symmetry counts
22. The woman signals…
23. Don’t mimic women
24. More signals to watch for
25. Take a tip from bowerbirds
26. Learn what women look for
27. Learn the twelve steps to seduction
28. Be creative
29. Develop an opening line
30. Take your time - or not
31. Watch the female
32. You don’t need to bungee-jump
33. Some risk-taking can’t be avoided
34. Make plenty of money
35. Hang around with ordinary guys
36. Buy a Maserati
37. Develop your “parental investment”
38. Look for similarities
39. Think love, not sex
40. Stress safety
41. Raise your expectations
42. It’s all about control
43. Don’t stereotype
44. Be a good salesman
45. Watch the details
46. Find out what turns women off
47. Sell yourself
48. Forget seduction
49. Learn how women think
50. Think “Interconnectivity”

This is their list, I don't necessary agree with everything on it. For a more detail look check it out here.

Sticking Point: When your muscle fail you

This actually funny.

Today at lunch, I was sitting at a table eating and watching the snow fall. The woman next to me turned and asking if I would open her bottle of juice. I tried and failed. She said, 'Oh, don't worry about it'. How embarassing? Hahahaha

How do you recover from this? The only thing I can think of is throw the bottle away and say, 'Aw, it's just not ready for the world'. (or something more wittier)

Does the community care about you?

Yesterday, I went through all my emails that I have not read since Thanksgiving. You know the emails that you feel or think are junk or products, things that you will eventually get too. What I notice over this period of time, Thanksgiving through Inauguration was a complete disregard to personal space.

Seriously, if you were a salesman would you go to someone's house or call someone on Thanksgiving, Christmas, or New Year's Eve to sell your product? I don't think so, you don't have any product that would make that person forgive the interruption of their private time with family and friends. So why do it by email? Why do it by email if you a PUA, Social Artist, Guru, etc...? That seems pretty beta to me.

It is because it is about money. It's not about helping people. If you really wanted to help me "Not Be Alone During The Holidays", you would no be sending a silly email about your product; your ass would be in my apartment dragging me out and throwing me in sets.

How about a simple Happy Thanksgiving, Merry Christmas, or Happy New Year? I would have even taken a 'Have a Happy Holidays'.

Of course, I know that these folks have taken their skills and turn it into a profitable business, I can't fault them for that, since I have even bought their products. It's fine I accept that the community has become an industry.

It has become such an industry that only one person did not try to sell me a product on January 20, 2009, that was David Wygant who put an inspirational video the day before telling people to believe in themselves and not treat Obama as the Messiah (I'm not doing Wygant justice here, it was pretty good video). The inauguration of Barack Obama was the most viewed event known to man in history.

This event was so big that possibly every human within radio transmission, tv transmission, and/or with internet connection viewed, heard, and/or saw this event. Except for those tribes and people in remote locations and Robert Gates. I would call this a bad day to sell something on the internet.

I could rant on and on, but seriously what is going on here? Sites like the Bristol Lair and Fast Seduction 101 have a wealth of content, I continually go back their to find a new routine or find a solution to a sticking point along with going back to products that I already, chatting with my wings, and DC Puas.

Do I really need the Uncle of the guy that did not stay in at Project Hollywood, but was the roommate of the girl who knew Joe D in grade school who now dates the little nephew of homeless guy who used to be the voice of G.I. Joe selling me the "seduction methods and tricks"?

You will always have an excuse

Quite often most of my best ideas for work or just stuff in general usually come in a location where I do not have the ability to write them down such as in the shower, while running, or when I'm working out. I can never luck out and I have one these profound thoughts or ingenious ideas when I'm in a meeting or when I'm laying on the couch. But this one stuck with me today.

It happened when I was running this morning. I always hate the first five minutes. my timing and breathing are off, but once I hit the five minute mark everything kicks in and I can go until timer slows the treadmill down. During this morning run, I wasn't really thinking about anything except getting my breathing down. Then a little voice in my head started saying "aw, my back hurts...do we have to run today...do I really want to run today" ... whine after whine. Then another voice pop in my head and said "man, you will always have an excuse, keep running".

I don't know where that came from, but that little quote, got me thinking. What else do I have an excuse for? Work, career, social, relationships, money, education, etc... I really ponder upon this. And began to brake it down to things I have not done, finished, or accomplished even to the littlest thing like do laundry.

So why haven't I done laundry? Because I have clean clothes. Yet I have a hamper full of dirty laundry. Just because I have clean clothes does not mean I do not have to still do laundry. It was just an excuse.

When I got to the office I jotted down 25 things have not done and the reason I have not done them. Every single reason was an excuse, not anything physically stopping me from doing them except for the 4, which I have to do from home.

For now on I going to use this as a motivator, sure it needs to be tweeked and reframed a little, but it has had a positive impact on me. From my point of view: yeah, I will always have an excuse to not do something so why not do it.

Back to Work !!!

I was trying to get this out this morning, but of course RCN was down. FYI: RCN SUCKS !

Well, it's Monday after the holidays. I hope everyone's holidays went well and you started the new year off with a BANG!

Unlike most people, fortunately and unfortunately, my holiday seasoning was packed with work (more of a whine than a complaint), yet I had some time to throw down and have some fun, enjoy some turkey, some pecan pie, hang with my family, hang with HBSharon, chill with my boys (Fate, Ali, MG), and meet some great women.

As with many people, I have been reviewing and updating my goals. Yeah, it seems like that time of the year.

Anyway, Happy New Year!!!

Getting Back in the Field

Yesterday before heading back to DC, I decided to text everyone to see what they were planning on doing for the night. No one really had anything planned but everyone keep saying they were going to check out Shadow Room. So with that in mind I when I got back to DC, I had a quick dinner, jump in the shower, and headed out to there.

I arrived at 11pm which way too early for DC clubs. Anyway, the club had people in it, but sporadically spread out. And of course no one I knew was around. So I check my coat and headed to the back bar. The back bar is smaller which made it seem there were more people back there than the front bar. I really did not have a game plan, I notice everyone just pounding their drinks waiting for the club to get packed.

I ordered a diet coke and open my first set - two guys standing at the bar. Just a straight up - "Hey, I'm Sniper". To my surprise they just started talking, nothing too serious...when does this place pick up, what other clubs are hot tonight...etc... A three set of girls head towards the bar behind me, the first girls politely ask if she can get to the bar and with the movement of bodies everyone kind of pair off just chit chatting all fluff. This slowly morphed into me bounce from set to set meeting people and making new friends until Cowboy and JackRabbit arrived.

I was in this conversation with this cute Asian girl (BMalaysian) when they arrived. I made introductions and we continue to chat. The BMalaysian invites us to her table. She introduce us to her friends and everyone just started chatting and getting along. This continue through the night some drinks, a little dancing, and conversation. At closing time we walk BMalaysian and her friends to her car. I kiss and number close her. And the night ends.

Here's the interesting thing, there was about 45 seconds when I first arrived where I was like I'm out of here. Had I jetted I would not had a good time. I also learned that sometimes you just have to let things flow. I did not purposely bounce from set to set, it was more like turning and saying "Oh, Hi" and just going into conversation. For some reason, I felt this weird sensation that people were watching me, but I really was doing anything just talking.

Anyway, I am sure there is a lot more lessons in my outing last night. I'm just happy I step outside of my head and went with the flow.

Hibernation Isolation

It started off as just relaxing after Thanksgiving weekend and lasted seven days. For seven days I did my daily routine except for with very little human contact or engagement. The only person I spoke with face to face was a women at the gym in my building and all that was a simple "Hello". Granted I was not totally isolated because I spoke with friends over email, facebook, and over the phone, but for the most part it was just me.

Now, I was not sitting on my couch playing video games all day. I was actually quite busy. I was planning for Christmas and the inauguration. I was prospecting potential clients for next year. I was working the current projects that I have with clients and I finishing up a term paper.

I do have to say it was kind of relaxing. It was the first time in about two years that I was completely alone and it was very productive professionally and personally. It was not something that I set out to do, it just happened.

Now, with all that said. I can easily see how people get wrapped up in their world and in their heads. It is so easy just to sit at home and work, and in my case even go to the gym and with grocery delivery services, you could easily never step outside.

While convenient, it is sad. It makes me wonder if this is the reason why it is easy despite whatever random approach anxiety that I may have to talk to women.

Anyway, enough of my pondering. Hope everyone Thanksgiving went well. Chat with ya'll soon.