New Nick

So after pondering, I have come up with SNIPER.

Why?

Well, because someone has to take the AFC out. Also, the sniper takes his time, learns about his targets, pratices his skills, adjust to the environment, and the pounces on his target with accruracy.

So the new nick serves dual purposes, wiping out the old and taking on the new.


Here's to the AFC and the women, he'll never meet.
And to Sniper and the women he steers to his keep.
If the two should ever meet, it will be the Sniper left standing on his feet.

Cheers!!!

BNewYork

So Saturday night, I actually hung out at Lucky Bar. It had been a long time. Well, after about 45 minutes, I was itching to go or start talking to people and not stand around and get drunk. That did not go over to well because MB had his eye on some chick and was doing his bruting model bit and my other buddies were happy with drinking and grabbing chicks to come talk to them which works so WELL.

Frustrated and not caring, I just started talking to this girl sitting next us.

Me: Hi, I'm (still don't have a new nickname). What's your name?
BNewYork: I'm BNewYork.
Me: Great earrings. They look Middle Eastern.
BNewYork: Really. I got them when I was in Israel.
Me: A friend just back from there. She brought back jewelry similar to your earrings.

She goes into detail about her trip and mention home New York, but she's from Jersey (the center of the universe) and we go into an all Jersey convo while having a couple of drinks. I made sure to add in a lot of kino (shoulder touches, hip bumps, high fives, knee grabs) because experience has shown me when you get into this type of rapid rapport building there tends to be a peak to which you have crossed into the friend zone without realizing it.

BNewYork: Shit, where are my friends?
Me: (Shrugs) (All shit she about to take off)
BNewYork: Come with me to find them. (she grabs my hand and drags me along)
Me: (Isolate!!!)
BNewYork: There, they are. (She waves to them) (They continue to talk to the guys they are with)
Me: (I pull BNewYork to me and kiss her)

We make out, make out some more, and more. We find a booth, order a couple drinks and make out some more. Then her friends come by, intros all the round, and I get BNewYork number and they leave.

I know what I did wrong. I caught a break because her friends were occupied, but I did not attempt extraction. I was too caught up in making out with her. I got her number and we talked today. It going to be interesting to see how I can get us back to the same level where at on Saturday.

Giving Up on Online Dating

I have several friends that have had some success with online dating. Well more like, they have gone out on dates with people from dating sites. After 6 months of trying, I'm done. For me, it's not worth it and plus it has been a clutch for me. A unrealistic subsitute for not getting off my ass and talking to someone. It so much easier to say hello to someone by email than in person, yet in person who get all the real feelings, the nervousness, the excitement, and the experience in dealing with real people. Another plus with dealing with live persons in front of you sometimes you even hook-up right then not in three months. Anyway, for those of you are having success with online dating, my hat is off to you. (psst tell me your secrets)

Got Cubed

On friday night, I headed to house party of a co-worker. It was blast. Lot's of drinks and lots of dancing. I even go two numbers. What was most interest was that my buddy girlfriend cubed me. Now, I have read the cube several times trying to memorize everything, but I have not run it on anyone.

Anyway, we got throught it and we are having fun. I asked her where she learned it. She told me a couple of weeks ago, she was in Adams Morgan with some friends and some guy was flirting with her and he asked if she has ever done the cube. She thought it was clever way to get girls to engage in conversation because it takes about 20 mins to do and then the conversations afterwards could last for awhile.

It was an interesting insight on what people like me are trying to do - approach, interact, and attract women. It is also kinda cool to know that their are guys out there actually running the cube in their routines.

Six Months

It's been six months since I started on this endeavor. It has been extremely hard and lately a lot of fun. Everyday has been a challenge, but it has become easier with a couple of changes. The number one change has been acting upon signals or just simply getting up and saying hi to someone. As simple as it seems, it is difficult when you have to rewire the way you think or that you have been taught.

Why did I start doing this?

Well, I was in a relationship that I hated nor wanted to be in, no matter what I did to make her leave she would not (the AFC at the time would not say, I don't think we should be together). At the same time, I was in another relationship that I thought was end all be all, but due to what I thought at the time was the correct way to behave, I only become what she did not want, another lap dog.

What have I learned over the past six months?
1. You must approach. Whether you are getting a signal or not.
2. Being rejected actually does not kill you.
3. You're friends can be your biggest obstacle, if you allow it.
4. While terrifying, this is also exhilarating. (Like a runner's high)
5. Clothes make a difference.
6. Women are just as petty as men, looks do matter; use yours to your advantage.
7. I can lose weight. All it took was going to the gym and eating right. (EVERYDAY)
8. I don't need a drink to talk to a woman.
9. I actually do have a quick wit.
10. Smiling and saying hello is a good opener.
11. I have to make the first move, if I don't want to end up being her friend.

As on reader said, I am no longer a AFC, so this mean I must change my name and title of the website. Any suggestions ???

Also, thank you, everyone who has been reading. Your comments have been helpful. I will continue to write and have fun.

The New Flirting Game

This comes from CityFlirting, apparently flirting is more of a game than just basic biological drive. Here's the full article from The New Flirting Game.

Are you gay?

Last Thursday, I was out at a friends' brithday party at Blue Gin. I ran into BRealestate who I met there about month before. We have exchanged for phone calls and email, but nothing really ever came out of it. So she is there with another guy, I walk over say hello. We exchange your typical, What have you been doing? Blah, blah, talk and get drag into other conversations with other people. Everyone is drinking and dancing, and she pulls me over to the side and says 'Let's have sometime next week.' I said Ok. And go back to what we were doing. I head to the bar to grab a drink and she comes up and we begin talking about the band at Madams Organ on Sundays then out of the blue she ask 'Are you guy?' I look at her like she was crazy then she apologized and started talking about the guy she was with how she did not like him. At this point, I started holding her hand. We continued to talked and kept pulling her closer so that we basically hugging. So around 12, I said I gotta jet, you should come along. She paused and I waited and she finally said, I can't tonight. So I gave her a kiss and said good night.

I have no clue if her question was a test or was geniune. I do believe that my prior interactions with her might have gotten her to the sexual state and I just missed the cue to just escalate. This was definitely a great lesson.