Just Unsubscribe

So I was going to thru my email this afternoon trying to catch up on the reading i had not done over the pass month because I was out of the country. Most of the time, I just delete them if the headline or subject does not appeal to me. This time I grouped them by guru, pua, school, or blog. What I realized is that 90% of them were just marketing with no substance.

This is a shame. Two years ago, the emails were filled with useful information, but now nothing. So I just unsubscribe. There no use of signing up for anyone email lists. What pissed me off the most were the marketing emails that I was getting from guys that I have already bought products from and guys who's private forums I'm on.

So here's my one piece of advice: Just Unsubscribe from any community email lists that you are on, they marketing materials only geared to make you feel that you have not accomplished anything and to promote the next best thing. There is no silver bullet. It's all on you, you are the silver bullet so stop reading this and Sarge On.

Does the community care about you?

Yesterday, I went through all my emails that I have not read since Thanksgiving. You know the emails that you feel or think are junk or products, things that you will eventually get too. What I notice over this period of time, Thanksgiving through Inauguration was a complete disregard to personal space.

Seriously, if you were a salesman would you go to someone's house or call someone on Thanksgiving, Christmas, or New Year's Eve to sell your product? I don't think so, you don't have any product that would make that person forgive the interruption of their private time with family and friends. So why do it by email? Why do it by email if you a PUA, Social Artist, Guru, etc...? That seems pretty beta to me.

It is because it is about money. It's not about helping people. If you really wanted to help me "Not Be Alone During The Holidays", you would no be sending a silly email about your product; your ass would be in my apartment dragging me out and throwing me in sets.

How about a simple Happy Thanksgiving, Merry Christmas, or Happy New Year? I would have even taken a 'Have a Happy Holidays'.

Of course, I know that these folks have taken their skills and turn it into a profitable business, I can't fault them for that, since I have even bought their products. It's fine I accept that the community has become an industry.

It has become such an industry that only one person did not try to sell me a product on January 20, 2009, that was David Wygant who put an inspirational video the day before telling people to believe in themselves and not treat Obama as the Messiah (I'm not doing Wygant justice here, it was pretty good video). The inauguration of Barack Obama was the most viewed event known to man in history.

This event was so big that possibly every human within radio transmission, tv transmission, and/or with internet connection viewed, heard, and/or saw this event. Except for those tribes and people in remote locations and Robert Gates. I would call this a bad day to sell something on the internet.

I could rant on and on, but seriously what is going on here? Sites like the Bristol Lair and Fast Seduction 101 have a wealth of content, I continually go back their to find a new routine or find a solution to a sticking point along with going back to products that I already, chatting with my wings, and DC Puas.

Do I really need the Uncle of the guy that did not stay in at Project Hollywood, but was the roommate of the girl who knew Joe D in grade school who now dates the little nephew of homeless guy who used to be the voice of G.I. Joe selling me the "seduction methods and tricks"?

The Ultimate Disqualifier

John McCain may have blown himself out of the Presidency.

Obama is too popular. Obama is a celebrity. Whine..whine...whine.

John McCain has a great story to tell. His life is a DHV, but instead he chose to be a whiny chode.

I can't wait until this election is over.

Sensitive Men (Rant)

Sniper: Hey, when do you think they are going to come and fix my sink?
Concierge: I don't appreciate the way, you are talking to me.
Sniper: Um, did I yell?
Concierge: No.
Sniper: Then I do not appreciate you not answering my question. It is a fair question since I have been waiting five days. I did not yell nor raise my voice.
Concierge: I do not like your tone.
Sniper: Really? I do not like the fees I pay that go toward your salary when it is obvious that you do not intend to help me.
Concierge: I ...
Sniper: (interrupting) If you say another word that is not a response to my original question, there will be a lot that you are not going to appreciate.
Concierge: I do not know when they will up to fix the sink. I will send someone right away.
Sniper: Thank you.



Insurance agent assistant: Who are you to ask for this information?
Sniper: I'm this asshole who pays $2000 a month for his employees.
Insurance agent assistant: I don't like your tone.
Sniper: Really? At bare minimum, I expect for my insurance company to have a little phone ettiqutte. I do not know who you are nor do I care, please put my agent on the line.
Insurance agent assistant: You do not have to talk to me this way.
Sniper: You should have some courteosy when calling a client. I will not ask you again, please put my agent who is your boss on the phone.
Insurance agent assistant: One moment.

What the hell is going on? When did people get so entitled? I am suppose to kiss someone ass who is being rude or not doing their job? When did men become so sensitive that you can no longer have a conversation? Is it the heat? What type of guy says I don't appreciate that or I don't like your tone? Who the hell to do you talk to you? ARRRRGGGGHHHHH!!!!

The Pick-Up Artist Episode #2

Last night, I watch the second episode of The Pick-Up Artist. Wow. You have to watch this episode. Whether you believe in this community or not, but what Spoon went through is real. Approach anxiety, approaching women, or however you want to term it, is not something not to take likely. It force this guy to quit the show. It is messed up.

As Mystery and wings tried to tell Spoon by doing this one thing, by quitting it will have repercussions in other areas in his life. Not many people see this or get this, but a simple at of giving up in an area of your life where you know you are doing poorly on set the ground for you to give up in other areas of your life. Staying a miserable relationship, staying in a dead-end job, etc...

And what is with all these miserable men and women taking shots at the show? Seriuosly, 60% of all marriages fail in this country. You see this crap everyday, women who hate their husbands, husbands that hate their wives, and no one willing to do anything about it except for cheat, drink, and do drugs. Are you kidding me? Yes, there is some cheese in the show, but taking shots at the Mystery and the participants is unwarranted. At least, they are trying to determine their fate unlike the millions of men and women in this country that wander around aimlessly letting life just happen to them.

My Free Implants

I stumble across this tonight: My Free Implants. First of all, what a great idea. I really can't be mad at someone who gets someone else to pay for something they want. I really can't, I think it's genius.

But....

What kills me is that the site directly geared towards guys to pay for some girl they don't know boob job. And by the way, you should not pay for someone you do know boob job unless it's one of your buddies and he is going to pull a Brian Zembic.

Great idea for girls, bad idea for guys to pay for it.

This Stuff Works

I am taking a moment to write while on the road. The past 16 days have been extremely busy, stressful, and fun. Two weeks ago, while I was in DC, I hosted a fundraiser that went extremely well, it also kicked me into gear because while I knew the majority of the people, there was still quite a few I did not, I had no choice to introduce myself and introduce them some of the guests and speakers. I had a blast. I left that night on a high, only to get home and find a letter from the IRS, which was gonna cost me a ton of money. I called my accountants and lawyer to find out what was going on and basically, my lawyer ‘forgot’ to file a simple piece of paperwork. FIRED!!! Immediately after I let him go, I pretty much realized that this firm was pretty much connected to every part of my work world. Oh, well??

The following day, I plowed through my work out, my work schedule, and went out and had a blast. I was so tempted to drink, but I didn’t, I’m glad I didn’t because I spent the next day putting out fires over tiniest things, but also because I was just plowing through approaches that night. I used the same opener (jealous girlfriend) again and again a sets to just opened up. Granted I blotched a few, because I was just surprised and thinking too much in my head, but it was a great learning experience. I spent that weekend in Phoenix and Chicago working and going out. I do know if I was being rude, but the guys I was out with were being lame just standing around so I just created my own adventures. I just kept approaching I made a lot of ‘bar’ friends and met couple of people that I would hang out with if I make it back that way. That weekend really instilled in me that all of this works even when I not completely in the mood. I finally came up with my own opener that has been doing well so far, it came about when this guy was trying to blow me out of set by commenting on my shirt, it actually sealed the deal for me and this girl I was sarging two Saturday nights ago. Awesome. I actually broke 100 approaches that weekend. YEAH.

Speaking of approaches, while it is still possible to end up with a 1000. I really doubt I gonna make it, but I’m still gonna try, but I taking off the site. IT’S DEPRESSING ME!!! Hahaha…

Last week was filled with me as according to my cousin ‘harassing women’ in Sarasota. Kind of interesting because I actually 5 numbers, 2 day-twos, and one kiss close. It was a great learning experience, I never thought I could do well with southern gals. But once again, what I thought was completely different from reality. That’s seems to be my theme for the past two weeks, all my worst fears have not come true. I did get yelled, but it was because I went into AFC mode and trying to tell this HB that there was bug in her hair (there really was).

SNIPER: (softly) Um, um, um, excuse me, miss …
HBBug: (loudly) WHAT!??
SNIPER: (smiling and looking at the bug in her hair) Um, never mind.

Hahaha… I deserve it for being timid, but I also laughed because I could not take her seriously with a bug in her hair.

I had dinner with the ‘one’ on Sunday. It is kind of interesting when you lose your lust and the oh, my god I love for a girl that all of a sudden you’re like what the hell was I thinking. She is definitely smart and beautiful, but she is so negative. I never realized that before, maybe it was because I was in aw. Who knows. We had a great time. Nothing came out of it, she emailed me yesterday thanking for dinner and a good time. We are suppose to have drinks when I get back this week.

Ok, I have to get back to work. I’m about to burn another bridge. Oh, well, the a**hole should have given me a bonus.

Spilling the beans

So I have been on the road for the past two weeks, not all work, I went to two weddings. I learn something from one of the bridesmaid apparently at my friend's wife bachelorette party, each girl was giving a list of tasks to accomplish ranging from getting your picture taking with such an such guy; getting a guy to buy you a certain drink; dancing with a certain type of guy. I thought that was pretty cool, because it force people to go out and interact with others. I have kind of adapted to help me along. It's ten task a day mostly focusing on approaching. Last week it focused on field testing a new opener which was basically something like "Hey, great shirt. Did you make?" To my surprise, it actually did lead to some great conversations. I just need to work out the next piece to it, some type of transitioning.

In Phoenix, last week I was hit with some serious AA. And the way, I overcame it is probably not the best way but just let out in a scream. Not one of those brief grunts, but a long primal scream, one which you are out of breath when you are done. It seems to clear my mind. One tip, don't do this on the street. I just began taking a minute before I step out of hotel room and scream into the pillow that probably why I was out of breath. hahaha... Began meditating last Wednesday, after reading about it from Dr. Benzer's newsletter. Wow, it's a lot harder than I thought completely clearing your mind is a tough thing to do so many things pass through appointments, who need to call, what bills you forgot to pay, why didn't you do x, y, z ... But I do think I'm slowly learning right now I'm only at 10 minutes.

At the beginning of the year, I was whining about daygame. Well, mine sucks, but I'm plowing through it. I think the past year I was no focus on certain results versus completely learning the process. I have gotten back to taking it slowly. I have been trying to be more social versus more pua meaning focusing on having a good time than focusing on which woman to open. So I'm becoming that guy, you know the one that is talking to people in line, walking down the street, at the counter, on the metro; which I once thought was annoying, but it has actually open a lot of opportunities. I think gone back to do everything opposite of my mind thinks.

The crazy thing is I use to think that by drinking you can get on the same vibe as everyone it is exactly the opposite at least for me, with small amounts of alcohol I become quiet with large amounts of alcohol I become social, but I'm drunk; with no alcohol I become social or talkative because I'm bored. It's the strangest thing.

Ok, this is a random stream of consciousness post...

Spring Cleaning

I just finish going through my email from when I was on the road. I am done. For now, on I am only subscribed to:

Carlos Xuma’s Podcast
The Seduction King Podcast
StyleLife
Mystery Method
Mehow

This seem to be the emails, newsletters, and podcasts that I actually read, and give some important information.

I realized that everyone in the seduction community is producing so much stuff that you just can’t stay focus, not only that everyone is trying to sell their products. I support folks trying to make money but come on, do you have to try sell me your product everyday and on top of that do you have to make your topics so depressing: ‘Sick of Being Alone’, ‘Why aren’t you successful with women’, etc …

I hope that I will now get five emails a day versus ungodly amount I was getting before.